Single Income Family Virtues

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My favorite article is Embracing the Virtues of the Single-Income Family. According to the author, Christine Conner, the six virtues are Sacrifice, Humility, Simplicity, Humor, Gratitude and Reject Materialism.

Our own single-income family has had to embrace these values daily. We have both made sacrifices in our careers and lifestyle in order to become a single income family. No longer DINKs (double-income no kids), we have had to sacrifice vacations, new clothing, eating out, and other purchases that would have been made without a second thought. What single income family has not faced the humility of telling their double income friends that they can no longer meet at a restaurant two or three times a week?

Simplicity is one virtue that has been much harder for me to embrace than my husband. Consider this: when I met him he owned a mattress, stereo, wooden bowl and wooden spoon. He did have clothing, blankets and some other cooking tools, but we’re really talking minimalism here. We’ve sort of met in the middle so to speak and we do try to keep our life and home simple. Simple play with the kids is possible too! A sandbox with some old plastic cups and spoons can keep the boy entertained for quite a while. A set of legos can keep both the boy And his father building and playing for a whole afternoon.

Try to find the humor in the little things. Like ranch dressing on your son’s upper lip like a bleached mustachio. Or the huge pile of pillows and blankets that he drags out to the living room and piles on the dog so she can ‘go nigh-nigh.’ It may be hard to see the humor in the termite infestation or need for a new air conditioner, but eventually you will see that it is easier to laugh about it than cry about it.

In this day and age of blatant consumerism, it may be difficult to ignore the commercials of all the things you ‘need.’ I think that rejecting materialism is a difficult virtue to embrace. So, I think of my favorite virtue: Gratitude. And I try to be thankful for all the things that I do have. A roof over my head, food to eat and clothes to wear. I have a wonderfully supportive husband who works hard to provide the income that we do have. And I have a son who keeps me laughing every day and makes me eternally thankful that I can be at home with him.

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